Jon Gosselin Says, “Hey, Don’t Blame Me”

Jon Gosselin is tired of taking all the blame for his failed marriage, and he’s not gonna take it anymore!

The Jon & Kate Plus 8 dad and Ed Hardy-clad playboy has taken to the pages of In Touch Weekly to clear the air about his dissolved union with ex-wife Kate Gosselin, saying essentially that Kate started the whole thing, so get off his back already.

“Many people think that everything moved too fast, that I was out partying too quickly. But Kate gave up on the marriage last October, and the divorce will be finalized by September 30,” Gosselin reveals.

Says Gosselin, “Let’s go back to October of last year—that’s when all of this happened. Kate basically came to me out of the blue and said, ‘I am done. You are going to live your life, and I am going to live my life.’ I was like, “What?” I didn’t really know what was going on. When she said that, I was really upset and nervous.”

Furthermore, Jon—who suggests that Kate ended the relationship because “she wanted a career”—notes that he made efforts to patch things up with his sharp-coiffed spouse, only to be rebuffed.

“I asked, ‘What do I have to do to mend the relationship? What did I do wrong?’ I was beating myself up about it,” Gosselin recalls. “So I read a lot of books about personalities, like The Five Love Languages. Throughout the marriage, I felt like my personality had changed a lot. In December, I went to therapy. I asked Kate to come, but she didn’t want to. She said, ‘If you have a problem, go fix it.'”

Wow, how supportive of her! But don’t feel too bad for Gosselin. He has, after all, found new, true love with confirmed party girl Hailey Glassman—who, he says, gives him a considerably longer leash than his previous companion.

“If I want to go out with my friends, Hailey says, ‘Oh, go out.’ I’m not used to that,” Gosselin says. “I was used to, ‘No, no, it’s your fault.’ Sometimes I ask Hailey permission, like I used to do with Kate, and she says, ‘You don’t have to ask permission.’ I was used to living like that, and now it’s like a breath of fresh air. You can have a balanced relationship but also spend time with your friends.”

Totally. Even if those friends include a former tabloid reporter that you’re also rumored to be dating.

Let us know in the comments section: Who do you primarily blame for the breakup of the Gosselins’ marriage, Jon or Kate?