Will Smith & Jada 'Need To Be Open About Their Fears,' Expert Says

Will Smith, Jada Pinkett Smith

Power couple Will Smith and wife Jada Pinkett-Smith appear to be sticking together despite the supposed split (and possible cheating) rumors that surfaced earlier this week. The pair claimed "our marriage is intact," but couples therapist Dr. Michelle Golland tells Celebuzz having to deal with the media whirlwind will still put a strain on their marriage.
 "The stress on celebrity couples can be enormous because no marriage is perfect. There can be issues that need to be addressed. When you are a celebrity, people are pointing out the negative in a public manner. The public persona can cause a couple to become anxious or worried -- when in reality there was nothing to actually worry about."

Below is the rest of Celebuzz's conversation with Dr. Golland:

How can Will & Jada move forward as a couple? Will and Jada Smith will be able to move forward if they are communicating about the impact of these rumors on each of their own emotions. When celebrities are under fire from tabloid magazines regarding infidelity, couples need to be open about their fears or concerns and address them head-on through open dialogue or to use a professional when you hit the rough spots.

The best way is to not read all the junk that is being written about them. The way to move forward is to live your life and remember that celebrity has a painful ugly side that can’t be avoided. When these events happen, they can often make a couple even stronger because they have to trust each other and realize that the only people we need to care about are each other and our children.

Will and Jada have three children, who will be hearing these rumors. How will this affect them? As parents, the best advice I can give them is to explain to the kids that they are OK and that the family is OK. They can use this as a time to reinforce what matters most in their lives and explore the challenge that the kids may feel themselves being celebrities or the children of celebrities. I always suggest using these challenges as teachable moments for our children.

Will & Jada were spotted out yesterday for a “happy couple” photo op. Was this a good move? Will and Jada need to be themselves and if they were out being happy and then it is a good thing for them and for their kids.

Do you think they should take time to focus on each other and put their careers on hold? Couples, whatever their occupations are -- whether actor, singer, doctor or car salesman -- need to evaluate at times where they are in their marriage and relationship. It should be done to check in and see where each of them are at emotionally, physically and spiritually as a couple and individually. No careers need to be put on “hold” per se but attention and reflection are always necessary in a happy, connected and authentic marriage.

 

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  • Kennetta Cooper
    Kennetta Cooper

    I hope this isnt true. Ive always admired Will & Jada as professionals and role models. I know rumors will surface, but have always tried to ignore them because thats what they are "rumors". On the other hand, when we involve outside people in our lives for sexual purposes, whether u have an open marriage or not, somebody WILL ALWAYS GET HURT. People get caught up in their feelings. It never fails. Sex is so over rated and causes a lot of pain and problems for folks. As adults, why cant we understand this? The game is the same, but the only thing that changes are the players! How can a married person cheat, doing only God knows what with that other person, and then go home to their spouse, and do only God knows what with their spouse. Thats nasty & trifling!!! Aint nobody afraid of AIDS anymore? Sorry gang, sex aint worth the aggrevation it causes! I hope Will and Jada work through this mess.

  • K Cooper
    K Cooper

    I hope this isnt true. Ive always admired Will & Jada as professional actors. I know rumors will surface but always tried to ignore them because thats what they are "rumors". On the other hand, when we involve outside people in our lives for sexual purposes, whether u have an open marriage or not, somebody WILL always get hurt. Sex is so over rated and causes a lot of pain and problems for folks. Why cant we understand this? How can a married person cheat, doing only God knows what with other person, and then come home to their spouse, and doing only God knows with that person.

  • Ebony wishes she had a man
    Ebony wishes she had a man

    hey you "black queen" i bet you are an ugly dark monkey! dont be mad that all the black men are going for the white girls you troll!

  • Ebony wishes she had a man
    Ebony wishes she had a man

    Ebony just guessing by your name i am assuming you are just a mad black woman who cant find a man so you got to hate.

  • ebony
    ebony

    Will and Jada are the most annoying couple in Holywood. Jada is a b. Jada thinks she knows every freakin thing. Willow and Jaden are annoying and ugly. Willow and Jaden cant act. Trey is ugly. Im glad Trey decided to stop acting a be a normal person. Jada treats Willow and Jaden like adults. The only reason why I think that Jaden and Willow are trying to act is because of Will and Jada. Trey has nappy. He needs to get a haircut. Willow, Williard Carroll, and Jaden are ugly names. Isnt Carroll a girls name.

  • danielleakame
    danielleakame

    well if the expert says so...who are we to argue...lol are you kidding me....wow seriously this ish is getting out of hand. and to miss O'Connor...really? bwhahaha wtf are you going on about. stop posting that shiz everywhere. note to self: no one cares.

  • Lorraine O'Connor
    Lorraine O'Connor

    I hope they follow Dr. Golland's advice. Marriage, in my experience, takes work. A lot of work. I think my husband taught me a lot about inner beauty and confidence in myself. I’m slim but voluptuous. I’ve got curves and a large bust but it seemed that men were more interested in my chest than my personality. My exes seemed obsessed with my cleavage. They were always going on about my breasts, and in bed they practically worshipped them, while I wished they concentrated their attention elsewhere. My husband’s in love with the person inside of me, and the outside of me is just a bonus. I feel better—so much better now than I ever did in my twenties. I know who I am. And as a result, I feel much sexier.

 
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