Relationship Expert Advises 'Immediate Psychological Counseling' For Rihanna & Chris Brown (PHOTOS)

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The sudden reunion between Rihanna and Chris Brown has ignited a huge controversy. Fans have expressed their disappointment in seeing the two partner on "Birthday Cake" and spend time together -- even though they say they are just friends.

Celebuzz turned to relationship expert and Author of The Breakup BibleRachel A. Sussman, who says the reunion could be "very damaging." 

Is this reunion healthy? Abuse of any kind in a relationship is extremely dangerous. There is often a dance between the abuser and the victim where they breakup (often violently) and then reunite. It's very damaging. The way to break the cycle is to end the relationship and then both parties should immediately get psychological counseling.

Why do people forgive their abusers? Often abusers were abused themselves as youngsters. Many abusers have had hard lives. A certain woman will fall for this person wanting to be his savior, thinking she can mend his wounds.

Should people try to salvage these relationships and get back together? I'm not a big fan of people in abusive relationships getting back together. There are millions of people in this country. Heal yourself and then get involved in a fresh and healthy relationship with someone who is less complicated.

Some public reaction has been to "get over it" because it happened three years ago. Can you offer insight into this? Anyone who feels it is ok must seriously examine how they have come to feel this way. Did they come from a family where abuse was prevalent? If so, get the help you need to break the awful cycle of abuse.

What is your advice to these two? My advice for any couple who are engaged or previously engaged with abuse is to get treatment and stay in treatment. Stay away from your abuser. Getting back together can endanger your mental and physical health. It can endanger your life too.

 

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    on the main page

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  • ema careers
    ema careers

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  • lenceria fina
    lenceria fina

    You could definitely see your expertise in the work you write. The sector hopes for more passionate writers such as you who aren't afraid to say how they believe. Always go after your heart.

  • getbent
    getbent

    God she always looks dirty and smelly no matter what she's wearing. You can't dress up a hunk of dog shit and she's living proof of that.

  • Tara
    Tara

    How is the comment stupid? Why are people holding on to the past? If she forgives him, everybody needs to move on from it and let them live. It's not a crime to make music together.

  • Super
    Super

    No one cares anymore. Chris' mom was abused by his stepdad in front of him when he was younger, so I guess domestic violence has been in his life.

  • darija
    darija

    OMG I cant read this articles anymore!!!You made a whole science of it,People it is just MUSIC,and their fans love both of the songs they have put out!!So if you maybe stop talking about them being together You would see Chris has a serious girlfriend with whom he is for a long time and had 0 incidents!!! I didnt had any violence or abuse in my family,I am educated better of many ac+veragge americans and I think there is absolutley nothing wrong in colaboration between 2 artistis,so GET OVER IT!!They are not some science experiment on which you can show rules how to behave in certain situations.Every situation is diferent,and there is something very wrong in fact that people worship celebirties like Gods and put them on pedestals,tey are only people!!

  • TheSmarterSideOfTara
    TheSmarterSideOfTara

    And I will say it isn't healthy to hold grudges, I agree. Rihanna forgiving Chris was a brave thing to do but the rumors of hooking up and then the two songs that came out..especially the sexually charged "Birthday Cake" is almost like a slap in the face to abused domestic victims.

  • TheSmarterSideOfTara
    TheSmarterSideOfTara

    Tara, that is a stupid comment. If you've never been through any abuse you don't really have room to make comments like people should just get over it. If you've ever gotten the shit beaten out of you, you'd rethink that.

  • Tara
    Tara

    here we go again...please let them two live. at the time of the assault he was 20 years old, i believe that they both have grown and learned from this. I mean, what do you guys want her to do be mad forever? that is not good to hold grudges, their friends now so please live with it, have some forgiveness in your hearts!