Demi Lovato Offers Up Dating Advice: 'Never Call the Guy First'

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Demi Lovato is offering up some good old fashioned dating advice ... via Twitter. The 19-year-old "Skyscraper" singer -- who has had an on-again, off-again relationship with 32-year-old actor Wilmer Valderrama -- decided to help some of her fans with their relationships on Wednesday, writing: 
"If he wants to talk to you, HE will call/text you. If he doesn't, then he doesn't want to. Never call the guy first. #datingproblems"
But she didn't stop there!

Demi added: 

"The hard part is waiting for that moment if you really like them.. or getting disappointed when your phone rings and it's not him."
This advice must not have been as well received as she expected, because she later tweeted: "Oh jesus people, don't get your panties in a wad. I'm not being sexist, I'm being old-fashioned. Can't ever say sh** on this thing."

What do you think of Demi's relationship advice? Is she right? Sound off in the comments. 

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  • Dating answers
    Dating answers

    That is very fascinating, You're a very professional blogger. I've joined your rss feed and look ahead to seeking extra of your great post. Also, I've shared your web site in my social networks

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Come back anytime Jen :) unlike everyone else I welcome you, and your vast archive of self help books and crappy Katherine Heigl flicks :)

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Nah that's ok. I think I'd be turned off by her vast collection of Katherine Heigl movies.

  • Noah
    Noah

    This fighting is adorable. You two are both really cute. I think you should date.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Come back anytime Jen :) unlike everyone else I welcome you, lost our huge archive of self help books and Katherine heigl movies :)

  • Jen
    Jen

    Have a wonderful day, sweetness. It sure has been a pleasure speaking with you! Trololololololol

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Scratch that. I do think you are Young, stupid, Psychotic, Single and desperate. Again...shot gun wedding :)

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Oh god, please spare me the modern feminism bull crap. You claim that the "men you know" want a girl that shows subtle interest and what not yet I'm getting the impression that the men you know seem to be generally turned off by how you interject this modern feminism bull crap in there, via your little reference. But a little problem with your train of thought here. Wouldn't ignoring the person be a sign of someone NOT being desperate? Since they aren't showing an INTEREST? I mean technically if there is no interest there, then there is no desperation right? Common sense much?

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Oh you didn't say it. Your massive self contradicting chronic posting told me so. Hell the fact that you are responding to me in such a vehement manner gives me the impression that you're a rather clingy individual. That or you obviously read one too many self help books. Either way, it's not a sexy quality. But I like how you say you are not taking me seriously when you SERIOUSLY thought I was educating people lol. That was funny. I mean if you really weren't bent out of shape, then what up with this long post of yours? A long post that YOU Claimed showed "Rage" right? I mean by your own words when you claimed people typing up "ridiculously long responses" that people make? So then I guess by your OWN admission you ARE bent out of shape. But I thought I did address the claims that you made. You claimed you were not stupid, uneducated, psychotic and what not, and I claimed that you are. You claimed that I was trying to "educate" young girls, when it's the latter. This is a celebrity gossip forum. There's no way I can educate the typical celebrity gossiper lol. Weren't those CLAIMS you made that I addressed? Someone has a reading comprehension issue ;-)

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Thank you for that very insightful and in depth post of yours that doesn't showcase ANY hypocrisy on your own end at all. You have seriously shown me the error of my ways with this one post where you by no means self reflected everything you accused ME of doing in this single post of yours. Because you by NO means made an unfair assumption on MY end at all by thinking I was trying to "educate" the idiot youth of our nation right? With a long and erroneous post that pretty much self contradicts you in every point? No. No that can't be it at all. And let me get this straight you claim that people should be "independent thinkers" and and what not yet here you are giving your own advice on a message board trying to other young girls because you don't agree with someone else? If you wanted them to be "independent thinkers" then you wouldn't be trying to insert your own hap handed advice that seems to be riddled with this modern feminism bull crap that laced in a later post. Also I came to the original conclusion that you were stupid and uneducated. The other assumptions you made were just that. Assumptions on your end. However after reading this post of yours I do think that you are stupid, uneducated, self contradicting, single and desperate. Since you brought it up that is. Pro tip my dear. If you didn't want me to think any of those things, you shouldn't have listed them :)

  • Jen
    Jen

    First of all, I don't know where you get the idea that I said anything about being clingy, when initiative is the exact word I used. Second, even if you disagreed with what I said, is that really grounds to personally attack someone? Third, "So I’m going give you a little education here." "Oh I’m sorry you thought I was trying to educate people? Lol oh you silly little thing. " Finally, I'm hardly bent out of shape. I can't take anyone seriously that spends all his time on the internet calling underaged girls c*$%s. Don't address any of the claims that I made or anything. Just keep calling me names. it's really helping your case. No one will notice that you have no idea what you're talking about if you just keep calling them names, so you've got the right idea.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Oh I'm sorry you thought I was trying to educate people? Lol oh you silly little thing. Your ignorance and general ineptitude makes me laugh. If I wanted to educated stupid bitches like you, you'd know it. Well actually no you wouldn't because again...you're an idiot lol. I just find the general ignorance and mental ineptitude of the our teenage youth rather amusing. I mean here you are getting bent out of shape over some random douche bag on the internet calling your ignorance ridden post idiotic just shows how angst ridden you guys have become. It's quite hilarious. As far as "advice" goes I wasn't giving any. I was stating a general observation. Something that you seem to be confused with as well. No surprise there.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Actually Jen I am well aware of your use of sarcasm. Hence me responding the way i did. However what YOU are talking about is not initiative. YOU are talking about being CLINGY. Two different things. However I do want to thank you for showcasing more of your ignorance. I find it rather amusing that you dedicated a three part post towards me. I take it this is some unstable female hormone BS that you are raging on about? Not very attractive doll.

  • Jen
    Jen

    Since when did showing interest in someone become needy? Oh let me hide in my kitchen from all the scary men out there that want to take advantage of my delicate feminine nature. Please. Most men I know want a girl who shows interest and expresses some desire to be in his presence rather than coyly ignore him. What's more desperate, putting yourself out there and taking a chance or hiding and being afraid of rejection?

  • Jen
    Jen

    And because I doubt you'll be able to grasp what I'm alluding to with regards to your hypocrisy, allow me to explain it to you. You spend so much time bitching about "idiots" acting like they know a celebrity (and by celebrity I mean Demi Lovato as your obsession seems to have taken a rather singular track) based on his or her tweets or what happens in the media.This is what infuriates you so much, correct? Why you spend hours typing up ridiculously long responses to passing comments that people make. Because of unfair assumptions that people make. Yes? All I said was that I thought playing games and being manipulative was bad advice to give impressionable young girls, especially in an age in which it is more important than ever to raise your children to be strong, independent thinkers. You then read a single sentence I wrote and came to the conclusion that I was young, stupid, uneducated, psychotic, single, and desperate. Not that I have to explain myself to you, but I am none of those things. And you aren't fooling anyone, least of all me.

  • Jen
    Jen

    I like how this is what you do with your time. Sit on celeb gossip sites trying to "educate" young girls by calling them stupid bitches and telling them to kill themselves. This is what you have to do to try and feel intelligent, huh? Condescend young girls half your age. How honorable of you to take the time out of your day to offer up your sagely and largely hypocritical advice to our nation's youth.

  • Jen
    Jen

    I'm sorry. What? It's called sarcasm. What I said was the same thing you said right here: Jeff Ting "As far as her advice goes, no. There’s something called INITIATIVE that BOTH parties have to show. Cause what you are thinking right now is what the OTHER side is probably thinking as well." But thanks for the "education." I learned so much!

  • Siena
    Siena

    I love Demi's advice! She is so beautiful and strong.

  • JohnFreeman
    JohnFreeman

    I'm willing to bet if you get enough responses, you'll lose your ish as well. Hell the fact that you made two posts proves how unstable you really are :)

  • JoeChief
    JoeChief

    No the real downfall of the western world will be the mass amount of idiots calling girls sl*ts for giving inaccurate advice. You know anyone like that?...moron.

  • JoeChief
    JoeChief

    Why can't demi have actual SMART haters? One's that aren't morons who understand the meaning of certain WORDS? -cough-ilo-cough- I mean is third grade really that hard for you guys?

  • JoeChief
    JoeChief

    Maybe you should. That way you might not be such an insufferable hag. Is that way the boys laugh at you when you tried to ask them out? lol.

  • JoeChief
    JoeChief

    Correction The real MESS are the idiots tweeting her saying she's "sexist" lol. And the dumb bitch named ilo who can't even give a full name. Not to bright are you?

  • James
    James

    Maybe that's why you are destined to stay alone the rest of your life. If I were you'd I'd want to kill myself too.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    I love hypocritical certain poster are. Claiming someone is a mess, yet you can't stop talking about. Your mental deterioration amuses me ilo :)

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Well then I guess I can say that YOU are a "mess" since you posted two consecutive responses in a row about a girl you claim to despise. Lol seems to me you're just self reflecting your own flaws on other people like the typical nut job. Perhaps this is due to your chronic stupidity?

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Maybe not but she still has idiots like you talking about her. For a supposed hater, you still cant STOP talking about her lol. You morons crack me up :)

  • ilo
    ilo

    See how she lost her shyt in the end. That girl is a mess.

  • ilo
    ilo

    like I would ever take dating advice from Demi Lovato LOL

  • The Voice of Reason
    The Voice of Reason

    This playing hard to get shit is ruining the world. Its bullshit. This "game" WILL BE THE DOWNFALL OF THE WESTERN WORLD/

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    thanks :) someone needed to insert some logic into these boards.

  • run
    run

    hello

  • kat
    kat

    Haha okay maybe you're right. I also enjoy the cheap amusement. Those first two comments were dumb and I loved your responses.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Lol its not JUST men darling.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Hey what can I say? I like cheap amusement from idiot gossipers. Also you're right. THey are entitled to their opinion and I am entitled to respond to their ignorance ridden garbage :)

  • kat
    kat

    And the fact of the matter is most men like to feel in control of the situation why not let them think that.

  • kat
    kat

    *why

  • kat
    kat

    Who do you care so much that you have written so many posts on the subject. Everyone is entitled to their opinion why press thr issue.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Well its not sexist. it may be Inaccurate advice but its not "Sexist" I mean females aren't the only ones playing hard to get. Never said it was good advice. Certainly not sexist.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    As far as her advice goes, no. There's something called INITIATIVE that BOTH parties have to show. Cause what you are thinking right now is what the OTHER side is probably thinking as well. its what we call the "dating game" and its been going on for ages. And most likely his or her friends are saying the same to him "if he/she likes you he/she will call you first." now is this good advice? Debatable. But its certainly not sexist as "The Voice Of No Reason" claims it to be. Seriously do you guys actually think before you post, or is there some chronic stupidity going on with celebrity gossipers?

  • kat
    kat

    I agree with her, playing hard to get always has worked for me. Anyone that calls that sexist is obviously desperate. There is nothing wrong with a little feminine manipulation. And the people who insulted Demi should feel ashamed, she is entitled to her opinion. Men do get turned off by neediness. More girls should take her advice. There is nothing dumb about taking some time to see if the guy is actually interested before putting yourself out there to be taken advantage of.

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Now I assume this is the same chronic stupidity and ignorance that vapid, unintelligent and most likely unkempt idiot celebrity gossipers display when they want to live their lives through people more successful than them. But the funniest and my favorite part of this post is the very end in which you state "Fucking female game playing entitlement." that made me laugh. I mean cause your post doesn't reek of self righteous douche baggery and obvious self entitlement bull shit from a condescending pompous light weight intellectual such as yourself now does it? No that can't be it at all. Spare me your pseudo intellectualism and your self contradiction tom foolery little girl and please castrate yourself. That way you could screw like the ho you most likely are and NOT breed future idiots ;-)

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    Hmm. This post is rather confusing in it's self. You call yourself the "voice of reason" yet anyone who would read your stupid comment would say that you "lack" any kind of reasoning at all. First off, you call her a slut because she feels her significant other should show initiative first to show interest. Not I'm not sure you know WHAT a slut is, but being a prude on twitter is NOT being a "slut" just thought I should clear that definition with you. Next you claim she wants to "sit back take no initiative and have her pick from all of the men." Now here's the next part wrong with your post. Cause you WOULD be right if she said "I want to have my pick from a list of suitable suitors at my disposal" or something like that but she said "if he is interested he will call you back" So I don't know how you are seeing that paraphrasing as stated earlier?

  • Jeff Ting
    Jeff Ting

    You seem to be very young and stupid when it comes to general life. So I'm going give you a little education here. There's something called "being clingy" which is unattractive to both sides. So "Constant interest" would be seen as "psychosis" but I like you say independent thought as some sort of process as a dating mechanism. Yeah that makes sense on your end. I'm sure you have a wonderful relationship with your imaginary boyfriend that you want to bend to your will. I see your future as one of those psycho brides brandishing a shot gun and forcing someone to marry you.

  • The Voice of Reason
    The Voice of Reason

    Worst advice ever. This is the problem with female entitlement. Want all the rights of a man without any of the responsibility. Fucking slut. She just wants to sit back, take no initiative and have her pick from all of the men. Traditional my ass! If you want to be traditional, stay the fuck in the goddamn kitchen. Fucking female gameplaying entitlement.

  • Jen
    Jen

    Yes girls, don't show any initiative, interest, or independent thought. It might scare him off. Just play dumb. Great advice.