'SWATH' Director Rupert Sanders and Wife Liberty Ross Need 'To Enter Counseling Or It's Over', Say Relationship Experts
Liberty Ross' life was turned upside down when reports surfaced that her partner of 15 years, director Rupert Sanders, had cheated on her with Snow White and the Huntsman actress, Kristen Stewart. Although both gulity parties have publicly apologized, the world is wondering how their partners will deal with it.
Hoping to save his marriage, Sanders told PEOPLE he was “utterly distraught about the pain I have caused my family.” He and Liberty have two young children, Skyla, 7, and Sonny 5.
“My beautiful wife and heavenly children are all I have in this world,” he said. “I love them with all my heart. I am praying that we can get through this together.”
But is that apology enough to save their marriage?
Celebuzz has reached out to some of the top relationships experts and psychologists to see how wife Liberty should move forward with her life after the infidelity scandal. See what they said!
After news of the tryst spread like wildfire on the web, Us Weekly printed incriminating photos of Stewart, 22, and Sanders, 41, cozying up in a car in what looks to be a romantic moment, with the blazing headline “Kristen Cheats on Rob!”
"I'm not sure what the issues are in the relationship that led to an affair... [but] I'm always supportive of saving 'good enough' marriages, especially when children are involved," Dr. Wendy Walsh told Celebuzz.
The Doctors star, who has never worked with the couple, believes Sanders' wife has control of the relationship.
"She should give him a clear ultimatum to enter couples counseling with her or it's over," Walsh said, adding the couple should above all "put the kids needs first."
Allison Pescosolido MA, founder Divorce Detox, believes the couple shouldn't make any irrational decisions until the dust has settled.
"The question isn't whether Liberty should stay but whether she will ask him to leave," Pescosolido said. "If she was my client, I'd help her process her feelings and tell her not to make any immediate decisions until she gets more information."
Ross, 33, posted cryptic tweets — just hours before reports surfaced that her husband cheated on her with Stewart.
“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together,” Rose re-tweeted on July 23, a quote from the famed seductress Marilyn Monroe.
Then, just 20 hours before the story broke, Ross appeared to be lost for words, writing, "WOW!" before deleting her Twitter account completely -- a move that relationship expert Jessica Radloff is supporting.
"It's smart that she got off of Twitter. It's so tempting to write quotes or sayings in the wake of a break-up or difficult time, but the minute you put something on social media -- especially if you're famous or in the middle of a pop-culture media storm -- it's bound to get picked up and often times is misinterpreted," Radloff said.
Just two weeks before news broke of the affair, Ross opened up about a recent rough patch in her marriage — and how their relationship became “so amazing” after it.
With Sanders grinding away on his hectic Hollywood schedule, Ross often felt like she was parenting solo. “I would never say out loud that I am raising my children alone,” the actress/former model said, “but a lot of the time it has felt like that. I went from the glamor of working with Karl Lagerfeld and John Galliano to living on an isolated hilltop, with my husband gone most of the time," Ross admitted in an interview with YOU Magazine (excerpted by the Daily Mail).
Relationship expert April Beyer isn't surprised by the scandal, telling Celebuzz: "Directors are notorious for falling for their leading ladies. Kristen is only 22. It speaks volumes about his character, maturity level and ability to protect and value his marriage."
As for the marriage, Beyer believes it's probably over.
"Most women will not immediately leave. Especially if it's the first time it has happened in the marriage," Beyer said. "If you're going to stay you need to forgive. If you can't forgive, you need to move on."