Understanding ‘Conscious Uncoupling’

On Tuesday, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin used the phrase “conscious uncoupling” to describe their split after 10 years of marriage.

I understand the phrase in a literal sense, but what does it actually mean to them as a couple… Or to the world, for that matter?

Paltrow clarified the phrase, sharing an article by doctor duo Dr. Habib Sadeghi and Dr. Sherry Sami.  The couple argues that high divorce rates are in correlation with “skyrocketing life expectancy,” saying the social norms we’ve set in place centuries ago no longer satisfy a person’s needs today.

“Our biology and psychology aren’t set up to be with one person for four, five or six decades,” they write.  “The idea of being married to one person for life is too much pressure for anyone… Social research suggests that because we’re living so long, most people will have two or three significant long-term relationships in their lifetime.”

Basically, “conscious uncoupling” is understanding that you may not be with one person “until death do us part” and that should be considered a social norm these days.

Whether you believe it or not, it’s definitely a more positive way of looking at and accepting divorce.

As for Paltrow, she told E! News she plans to take a break from acting and focus on being a Mommy the rest of this year.

What are your thoughts?  Do you agree with “conscious uncoupling?” Let me know in the comments section below.