Lorde’s Boyfriend Opens Up About What It’s Like to Be Lorde’s Boyfriend
So, being the center of tabloid fascination, attracting faux friends and witnessing paparazzi attacks are all part of dating a superstar. We get it.
And this superstar happens to be Lorde, or who her boyfriend, photographer James Lowe, refers to as Ella (yes, she has a real name.)
But other than the tales of woe that Tinseltown isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, life in the limelight does have its perks.
See, now we know who Lowe actually is.
And he’s opening up for the first time about how his once-anonymous existence has changed since his romance started with the 17-year-old singing phenom.
“I’ve written, deleted, re-written, and deleted this post at least five times over the past few months, wondering when would be an appropriate time to start writing again,” Lowe wrote on his blog reluctantly after being the target of severe cyber-bullying and racially-charged online messages after photos surfaced of the two young lovebirds on Twitter and enjoying a vacation together last December.
“Now, however – having experienced how wrong taking the silent seat can go – I’d rather clear the air about a lot of misconceptions out there. To challenge the voices of ignorant writers who cower behind their anonymous comments,” he added.
Here’s what Lowe has to say about the highs and lows of his newfound celebrity:
“Since originally sitting down to write this post, Ella has become a two time grammy winner. She has taken home a Brit too. Currently she is on the opposite side of the world on tour,” he wrote. “As much as I miss her, I couldn’t be prouder of what she has achieved so far. If you are lucky enough to attend one of her shows on this current tour, you’ll experience more than just her voice. The production she has dreamt up looks incredible… I can’t wait to see it myself next month.
“This blog developed into a series of words and pictures, thoughts and often over-thoughts about trying to live in a country that wasn’t my own, about trying to be in a relationship with a girl who lives 6000 miles away, about whatever the fuck someone in their 20′s shouldn’t be doing, but currently is. My life is probably a lot different now, but it feels normal on the inside.
“Jared Leto said that fame doesn’t change you, it changes everyone around you,” continued Lowe. “While I’m not the centre of attention here (and fuck, the times I have, it’s never been fun), I do become aware of the people around me and their transparency. They fail to hide it. I’ve experienced being a target of the tabloids, finding moments I thought I was in safe hands splattered all over the internet, being pushed and shoved, or watching others get pushed and shoved by paparazzi just to get what they think they’re entitled to.
“While I’m dragging on about the negative aspects, they are only a small part of my world now. There is a bright, shining silver lining to this thing I’ve been exposed to. I’ve had the privilege to sit on an aircraft for 12 hours, cramped, exhausted but happy (like Louis CK once said, “YOU’RE FLYING. YOU’RE SITTING IN A CHAIR IN THE SKY!”). I’ve been able to tell tales of the many amazing people I’ve met along the way – from fellow photographers, to artists I’ve always admired and never thought I’d get to meet, let alone have a simple thing like coffee with… People who seem to scramble the words within your brain and the only thing you end up doing is blurting out ‘HILSKDFLKWELK’ (at some point it’s a verbal greeting, but ends up a flurry of sweat mixed with spit).
“More importantly, I’ve found a little inspiration from new faces,” he added. “People I look up to. People whose work I admire so much. For all of this I have to thank the one I look up to the most. Who I admire the most. Who still fills the little voids I try to avoid.
“Some stories I keep for the memory banks, and some I’ll share here. Currently I am mostly at home trying to carry on with real life (and I call it real life even though for the most part it is all still so surreal).”