Taylor Swift: “It’s Healthy for Everyone to Go a Few Years Without Dating”
Speaking with Esquire, the “Welcome to New York” singer — whose infamous list of exes include Joe Jonas, Taylor Lautner, and Harry Styles — insists on working on herself first before finding another boyfriend.
“I would date someone, figure out we weren’t compatible or figure out we didn’t work out, and then we’d break up. That seems like a very normal thing for a young 20-something to do, and that is my biggest scandal,” she says “I think it’s healthy for everyone to go a few years without dating, just because you need to get to know who you are. And I’ve done more thinking and examining and figuring out how to cope with things on my own than I would have if I had been focusing on someone else’s emotions and someone else’s schedule. It’s been really good.”
that girl, Swift admits she understands why there’s a misconception that she’s constantly on the hunt for a new man.
“I think with every celebrity story there has to be a ‘Yeah, but … Take Beyoncé: She’s incredibly talented, gorgeous, perfect role model for girls, empowering women all over the world. Yeah, but … let’s try to pick at her marriage,” she explains. “I think that every celebrity has that. And predominantly women, unfortunately.”
“The only thing I can’t control is the spin in the press. And so if I know I can’t control that, I have to let it go,” she continues. “In some ways, though, you can control it. I really didn’t like the whole serial-dater thing. I thought it was a really sexist angle on my life. And so I just stopped dating people, because it meant a lot to me to set the record straight—that I do not need some guy around in order to get inspiration, in order to make a great record, in order to live my life, in order to feel okay about myself. And I wanted to show my fans the same thing.”