Gwyneth Paltrow Reveals She and Chris Martin Should Probably Have Stayed Married
Paltrow recalls how Martin saved her life following the death of her father Bruce Paltrow in 2002.
“I feel like I would have died somehow if I hadn’t met him at that time. I felt like I was going to die of grief. I remember waking up, on one particular night, where I felt like I was having a heart attack and I couldn’t breathe… I lay on the floor of my apartment in London and I thought, ‘I’m not going to survive this.’ And he just picked me up and he was so loving and patient through all my grieving,” she explains.
The relationship moved “very fast,” Paltrow revealed. She got married to Martin in 2003 when he was only 25, five years younger than her. “Men are very young at that age, and I was relying on him very heavily and I really expected him to keep being this grown man and pillar of strength – which he was and is – but it’s also quite an unfair set of criteria to give to someone who’s just 25 years old,” she continues.
The couple announced their decision to split, or as they put it, to “consciously uncouple” earlier this year. However, they remain close as they co-parent their two children, Apple and Moses. “It’s painful, it’s difficult, it might be easier to say, ‘I never want to see you again,’ ” she says of the split. “But what good does that do anyone?”
“We’ve made a lot of mistakes, and we’ve had good days and bad days, but I have to say, I’m proud of us for working through so much stuff together – and not blaming and shaming,” she goes on and then admits that she sometimes wishes they hadn’t broken-up, “Of course, there are times when I think it would have been better if we had stayed married, which is always what your children want. But we have been able to solidify this friendship, so that we’re really close.”
She was very close to her late father, Bruce Paltrow, and she reflected on how he influenced her.
“My father was totally self-made. I grew up with the benefit of a great education and a beautiful house, but my father always said, ‘The day you leave, that’s it. You’re not getting anything,’ and he stuck to it. He was so hardcore about me making my own way . . . I’ve earned everything myself, and I’ve never taken any money from anyone — my father really pounded that into me, so I got the message.”
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