Gwyneth Paltrow on Chris Martin Split: “We Worked Really F**king Hard to Get to This Point”
In the publication’s February 2015 issue, where the Mordecai star fronts the magazine’s cover, Paltrow explains that their separation was all very amicable and that they’ve been working hard as co-parents since parting ways in 2014.
“There was nothing dramatic or anything. I had built my life on trying to be all things to all people, and I just couldn’t do it anymore, and I really had the sense that I wasn’t allowed to have needs, and I had to prove my specialness or self-worth by doing all this stuff and taking care of everybody else, and I just sort of hit a wall,” she says of her split. “We’ve worked really fucking hard to get to [this] point. But we’re very, very close, and it’s so nice. I feel like it’s, in a way, the relationship we were meant to have.”
“I think we are all genuinely doing our best, it’s hard to have children and a career, and all some women seem to do is judge other women’s choices. I find that demoralizing and unhelpful,” the actress continues on the topic of raising her kids, Apple, 10, and Moses, 8. “Where is the wisdom coming out of this situation? I don’t see where this is getting us anywhere in terms of a cultural discussion.”
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Paltrow’s comments echoes the ones she made in a recent interview with Harper’s Bazaar U.K., in which the 42-year-old muses about what it would’ve been like had she stayed together with Martin.
“We’ve made a lot of mistakes, and we’ve had good days and bad days, but I have to say, I’m proud of us for working through so much stuff together — and not blaming and shaming,” she says of parting ways with the Coldplay frontman. “Of course, there are times when I think it would have been better if we had stayed married, which is always what your children want. But we have been able to solidify this friendship, so that we’re really close.”