Ansel Elgort on Losing His Virginity at 14: “I Had No Clue What I Was Doing”
Ansel Elgort is getting candid about sex.
“I had no clue what I was doing, and neither did the girl,” he admits. “I didn’t even make the lighting good. That’d be one thing I’d do differently. It was, like, fluorescent, bright bedroom light, like, over the covers.”
“The only thing that made me feel better was doing it again,” the 21-year-old adds.
Elgort, who is still dating high school sweetheart Violetta Komyshan after a five-month break, says that he prefers relationships over one night stands and being with women who aren’t high maintenance.
“Don’t make me sound like a playboy, because I’m not,” he explains. “I like to go on really nice dates. I’ve made some money, but I don’t spend it on anything besides my rent. But I go to nice dinners. And I like to go with a girl … I prefer being with a girlfriend long-term. I prefer to be with someone I can trust. I’m more into that.”
He muses, “I think I could say this: If you like someone and the sex is really good and you enjoy spending time together, why wouldn’t you make that person your girlfriend? Why go around dating random girls and having terrible sex when you can be with someone you really like?”
“If you can find a girl who you can go to an EDM concert with, have a conversation with, who will sit on the couch and watch you play GTA for three hours—and then you go to bed and have amazing sex? That should be your girlfriend.”