Taylor Swift Admits She Felt ‘Shamed’ Into Not Dating
While Taylor Swift has spent that last year or so chalking up her single life to finding herself and spending time with her girlfriends, she actually holds the media accountable for making her feel “shamed” into not dating, too.
In an interview with Glamour UK — as their June 2015 cover girl and guest editor — the 25-year-old opens up about how the industry has affected her love life to a point where she feels “jaded about relationships.”
“I think the media has sent me a really unfair message over the past couple of years, which is that I’m not allowed to date for excitement, or fun, or new experiences or learning lessons. I’m only allowed to date if it’s for a lasting, multiple-year relationship. Otherwise I’m a, quote, ‘serial dater’. Or, quote, ‘boy crazy.’ The narrative has been so wrong, every time it was the same. It’s ‘Taylor spotted talking to this guy, she’s chasing him.’ They create a beginning to the story that didn’t happen most of the time, so then they have to create an ending. So they always go to the same fabricated ending that every other tabloid has used in my story, which is, ‘She got too clingy’, or ‘Taylor has too many emotions, she scared him away.’ Which has honestly never been the reason for any of my break-ups. You know what has been the reason? The media. You take something very fragile, like trying to get to know someone, and it feels like walking out into the middle of a gladiator arena with someone you’ve just met. And all of a sudden the public and the media are allowed to say thumbs up or thumbs down. So I just don’t try it any more.”
However, before she met him she told the magazine, “There is no easy way for me to engage with romance. I’m really busy, so I can’t. And it’s a good thing that I feel really independent and I feel that my friends are all I need. It’s kind of a sad way I got there, though, being shamed into it.”
Swift gave the perfect example of times she felt shamed for dating: “What else is it when you have two boyfriends in one year and everyone’s calling you boy crazy, making jokes about you at awards shows? That’s public humiliation. And I don’t think it’s fair.”
Launch the gallery above to see her full dating history.