Zoe Saldana Responds to ‘Buzz’ About Marco Perego Taking Her Surname: ‘Let’s Redefine Masculinity’
(We suppose it’s Zoe Saldana Perego and Marco Perego Saldana now?).
She wrote on Facebook;
Fathers, sons, brothers, men everywhere: Your legacy will not perish if you take your partner’s surname, or she keeps hers. I’ve been made aware that a comment I made regarding my marriage has garnered some attention. I felt proud that my husband decided to take my last name as his own… and I his. I shared my hesitation with him when he told me about his decision, not only did he say, “I don’t give a shhheeeetttt!!” (with a very strong Italian accent!!) he also asked me, “Why not? What are you so afraid of?” And it made me wonder… What am I so afraid of?
Saldana and Perego got married in June 2013 and welcomed twins in December 2014. She had first mentioned that Marco took her surname during an interview with Instyle (for which she’s this month’s cover girl), and also said that at first she tried to talk him out of it.
“I told him, ‘If you use my last name, you’re going to be emasculated by your community of artists, by your Latin community of men, by the world.’ But Marco looks up at me and says [she puts on a cute Italian accent], ‘Ah, Zoë, I don’t give a sheet.'”
His response helped her come to the understanding this “issue” is really a non-issue, and in fact, that we as a society should not only not confine ourselves to any box, or look down on non-conformity, but embrace non-conformity.
Saldana continued to write in her Facebook post that we should “redefine masculinity”:
Why is it so surprising, shocking- eventful that a man would take his wife’s surname? Women have never been asked if its ok for them to give up their names — why doesn’t that make the news?
Men, you will not cease to exist by taking your partner’s surname. On the contrary — you’ll be remembered as a man who stood by change. I know our sons will respect and admire their father more because their father lead by example.
Gentlemen, I implore you to think outside the box- remove the box altogether. Let’s redefine masculinity. A real “man” leads along side his partner. A real man accepts his mortality. A real man acknowledges that nothing can be done alone.
The 36-year-old actress also noted that this is an opportunity to open up the conversation for more fluidity and open-minded thinking when it comes to tradition and expectations of masculinity, writing:
I hope that the “buzz” behind this topic isn’t just for gossip — but an inspiration for us all to look within and see what is truly important.
Let’s start by letting go of some of the limitations we have inherited from the past, and forge a new path moving forward.
Zoe and Marco
Sorry for any mistypes LOL
We love Zoe Saldana’s words of wisdom.