Couples Therapy Couldn’t Save Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck’s Marriage

Marriage counseling couldn’t save their relationship, but Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are apparently about to have a really amicable divorce. Amicable, as in becoming neighbors on a shared property.

Although they are officially no more, some people are saying that their divorce has been a long time coming.

According to TMZ, Garner is specifically “fed up” with Affleck’s drinking and gambling, which has escalated so much over the past couple of years that “she couldn’t take it anymore.” But do note that “partying” wasn’t a factor – Affleck, who has a history of counting cards and getting kicked out of casinos, wasn’t a womanizer and Garner’s frustrations strictly were in regards to him gambling and drinking too much. He’s apparently really good at blackjack and wins a lot of money, but that still is no excuse.

Meanwhile, Affleck’s sources tell TMZ simply that they’re just two people who want to live different lives. Some people are even saying that they’ve already been living separately for about a year now, with Affleck staying in hotels.

The seemingly happy couple and parents to three kids (Violet, 9, Seraphina, 6, and Samuel, 3) allegedly have been going through a rough patch for a while now, and have been in couples therapy for years.

An Us Weekly source also claims Affleck, 42, and Garner, 43, nearly split up three years ago but stuck it out.  “They were in couples therapy for years. They were going to divorce when Sam was born but you know how it is — baby comes and solves the issues for a bit but it’s just a Band-Aid. It hasn’t been working for ages.”

“Ben truly wanted his idea of family life and the idea of family he had growing up in Boston so he stayed in it longer than he wanted to because of the kids and the idea of family,” the source added. “But he couldn’t save it.”

That being said, according to another Us Weekly source, Affleck will continue to live on their property, just not in the same house as Garner, so that they can continue to co-parent their children. Your ex-husband in the guest house? That’s not awkward at all.

You may or may not remember when Affleck alluded to their marriage difficulties in his 2013 Oscars acceptance speech when he won Best Picture for Argo.

“I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s good. It is work but the best kind of work and there’s no one I’d rather work with,” Affleck said. “You have to work harder than you think you possibly can. It’s hard. But you can’t hold grudges. And it doesn’t matter if you get knocked down in life. All that matters is that you gotta get back up.”

Garner and Affleck poked fun at the speech on Saturday Night Live a couple months after. During Affleck’s opening monologue, he called Garner up on stage to explain what he meant when he said their marriage was “work.” Those speeches are usually lovey-dovey, after all.

“Well, it is a way we talk privately about how committed we are to our marriage,” she said, adding, “I’m not sure why you had to share it live to a billion people.” Garner also remarked that she would have called their marriage “A gift!”

Apparently they don’t have a prenup, but it doesn’t make much of a difference because they’re both millionaires, according to TMZ. Garner made a “massive amount of money” off her show Alias, which went into syndication. As for Affleck, he has done many independent films “where the cash wasn’t as plentiful.” In other words, Garner doesn’t necessarily need spousal support for him (and is unlikely to even be granted it because her bank account is too large).

As for the rumor that they were sticking it out until their 10 year anniversary due to the “1o year rule,” which there is a better likelihood of a judge granting spousal support based on a longer length of marriage, TMZ reiterates, “A) their decision had nothing to do with it  B) she’s loaded and doesn’t need support.”

Garner and Affleck met in 2001 on the set of Pearl Harbor. In 2003, they co-starred in Daredevil, and married in Turks and Caicos in 2005. Yesterday (June 30, 2015), the pair released a joint statement saying they’ve decided to call it quits, a day after celebrating their 10 year anniversary: “We go forward with love and friendship for one another and a commitment to co-parenting our children whose privacy we ask to be respected during this difficult time.” They will finish sorting their divorce out in mediation.