Kate Hudson Talks About Why She and Matthew Bellamy Split

Breaking up is hard to do.

Kate Hudson and Matthew Bellamy ended their engagement in Dec. 2014 and now the 36-year-old actress has more details on what caused their split. In a new interview, Hudson says the two, who have one child together, didn’t have the healthiest relationship.

“If Matt and I had a great relationship, we would still be together, but we chose to move on because we had different visions of how we wanted to live our lives,” she told Allure. “Relationships ending are painful, and you can choose to carry that or you can choose to reframe it.”

When talking about her kids, Bingham, 4, and 11-year-old Ryder (from her previous relationship with Chris Robinson) her perspective shifts. “That doesn’t mean, though, that we can’t rebuild something that would be the best thing for the kids. We said, ‘We need to try to create something for the kids where they feel like they’re gaining something rather than losing something.'”

“It’s been a seamless transition,” she said about their lives so far. “Kids just want to see their parents be cool. Everybody’s cool; everybody’s good.”

These days, Kate’s relationship with Nick Jonas has been making headlines. Although the two have dodged relationship questions, they were recently spotted out at the same nightclub.