Gwen Stefani Candidly Talks About ‘Unexpected’ Gavin Rossdale Divorce and Writing ‘Used to Love You’

Gwen Stefani opened up about writing “Used to Love You,” and man, what a reminder that breakups are rough.

In an interview with KISS FM’s Jojo Wright last night (Nov. 9), Stefani explained that “Used to Love You” was very much inspired by her “unexpected” divorce from her husband of 13 years, Gavin Rossdale.

The No Doubt front-woman, who’s now dating her Voice co-star Blake Shelton, told Wright,

The song was not written that long ago. Like, I want to say maybe a month and half ago, which is crazy. I had been writing, writing because my life blew up. Everybody knows that my life blew up last February. I’d just been dealing with that. Unexpected. I was going along thinking that was going to be the rest of my life and it’s not. I don’t know what happened. I’ve always wanted to write music so desperately because doing it is one thing that really validates me for myself.

Without getting into any specifics, Stefani commented that “There was one night, the epicenter of the whole thing—that’s the most I can say about that—and the next day I wrote the chorus to ‘Used to Love You,’ but I didn’t know it was ‘Used to Love You.’ I just had written all this stuff and it had happened to be in there buried in a bunch of lyrics that I had written.”

She goes on to explain (in the video above) that the studio thought her newly written music was “too personal”:

I went to the studio and I had written all these songs that I feel like the record company was like, ‘We think it’s really great and very artistic. Maybe you should just put it out as an artistic body of work.’ It kind of felt like a punch in the stomach, like all the wind got knocked out of me.

They basically said they didn’t think anyone would relate to it and it was too personal. I was like, ‘Oh! Ouch!’ But I don’t know if they were trying to…the next day I wrote ‘Used to Love You.’ Sometimes you need someone to just pinch you or slap you in the face or punch you in the stomach, which is what they did.

Watch a clip from Stefani’s KIIS FM interview in the video above.