"I don’t want to be associated with her or the show."
Living in the spotlight isn’t easy; just ask Tamra Judge‘s family. According to one daughter of a longtime Real Housewives of Orange County star, her relationship with her mother has actually deteriorated over the years due to the show. Opening up about the toxicity of fame in a lengthy open letter, Sidney Barney claims her mom chose the Bravo show over having a meaningful relationship with her family. What’s worse: She even alleges the reality star is “mentally and emotionally abusive” towards kids.
Tamra Judge and her daughter, Sidney Barney, have been estranged for years since the Real Housewives of Orange County star’s messy divorce with Simon Barney.
During the Season 10 reunion show, Tamra revealed she had not seen her teenage daughter, who has been living with her ex full-time, in two years. She was finally reunited with the 18-year-old this summer when Sidney graduated high school, attending the ceremony along with her ex and their two other children: Spencer and Sophia.
Though it looked like the mother-daughter duo were on the road to reconciliation, a shocking new letter written by Sidney said otherwise…
In a lengthy Facebook rant (shared on Monday, August 7th), Sidney put the 49-year-old on blast and set the record straight about their mother-daughter relationship. Expressing she had no interest in the Bravo show, which her mother has been on since in 2007, Sidney claimed her mother chose fame over having a meaningful relationship with her children.
“I want to start by clearing some things up as my mother continues to talk about me despite me requesting her to stop speaking of me publically [sic] as I don’t want to be associated with her or the show,” she began.
According to Sidney, she initially chose her mother’s side during her parent’s divorce, but soon found out what Tamra — who she called a “true parent alienator” — “was doing along with other things that were toxic.”
“She Was No Mother to Me”
“The reasons I left my mothers house are that she was neglectful (leaving us at home with no food or simply ignoring us entirely), she constantly put herself first and the biggest reason was that she was mentally and emotionally abusive,” Sidney wrote. “She was no mother to me. This was an unhealthy environment for all of us kids and unfortunately I was the only one to recognize this and take steps to get out of that toxic environment.”
She alleged her mother would continue to do things to drive a wedge between their family, including “talking about me on the show/press/social media, doing embarrassing things on the show, lying to me and putting herself first to name a few.”
“If she would have put the effort into actually working on our relationship, instead of talking and crying about how much she ‘misses me’ on the show and wishes things were different she wouldn’t have missed my entire high school career,” she argued.