the emotions come in waves and they never rlealy stop. but I will say that once you reach acceptance the returns to anger denial and the sense of drowning and heartbreak come less frequently and are significantly less painful. it is what it is and your child is who he is. at that point buying the dress or getting a massage feel the same way they did before . enjoy your moments of normal and know that they are going to come more regularly with time.
ignore the fools.your a sexy good looking girl.don't let them tear you down.