I’m sorry but, Rihanna and Chris are two adults and if she has found it in her soul to forgive this young man, then that is where it stops. The public (mock therapists included, Ms. Velez-Mitchell) has absolutely no say in what these two do. Just as we (and you Ms. Velez-Mitchell) wouldn’t allow strangers to dictate our lives. This society loves throwing the words “Forgive and “Forgiveness” or terms like “turn the other cheek” around but doesn’t seem to know how to actually forgive, show forgiveness or “turn the other cheek”. We seem to think that we have a right to judge a celebrity because they are in the public eye, but would balk and become completely offended should someone who sees us publicly every day at work or every Friday at the bar judge us similarly. We become offended if someone posts a catty a remark on FB but have no problem posting negative words about a celebrity on a blog.
Chris Brown has completed his 52 mandatory weeks of Anger Management and has even continued his therapy to this day. Rihanna is also going through counseling. (let’ us not forget both of these young people came from very abusive childhood backgrounds. Something all the judgmental posts, articles and grand standing artist …i.e. Melissa Lambert, rarely mention) Chris has completed his Community service, he is adhering to his probation and has ALWAYS taken full responsibility for his actions. He has tried educate other young people so that they do not follow the same path he fell into. He is not a serial abuser, it took one occurrence and he has been trying to do right ever since. I find it very interesting that a young man (19 at the time now 24) who is NOT a repeat offender is held up as some sort of example of the worst kind of man, while Grown men with a proven track record for abuse both physical and emotional abuse like Sheen, Cage, Gibson,etc are just given a pass. That’s right let’s crucify the young man who has been getting help for his anger issues but just wave our hands at the men who have not gotten help and continue their abusive patterns. Where are your judgmental words for them? The blazing articles full of what they should be doing years later?
The public, the law, both sets of parents and Rihanna asked certain things of him and he has done exactly what was asked. Rihanna sees the person he is trying to become and she forgave him. But according to many she shouldn’t? She should stay locked in an emotional bitterness instead of releasing it and living her life freely? The world can’t ask these two to jump through “their” idea of moral hoops and then when they stop condemn them. They are adults who fell in love as children and were torn away from each other. They never fell out of love. Did it ever occur to you Ms. Velez, that perhaps what these two are looking for is simply closure? They may not want to be in a relationship, but they do want to close a period in their lives that was left gaping. But even if they do decide to be together, just as you decide who you date and eventually marry or married…it is their business and their right to do so without the world nay saying their every move. They have a right to their mistakes just as you, I and every other human being does. Our mistakes however aren’t publicized by ever media outlet in the world. We don’t have the world sitting as audience to our private issues. They can’t say the same.
Leave them alone and let them work their lives out themselves.