So what if he is a smoker?! I can't believe smoking is still a big deal, its 2008 for chrissake! With all the other addictives coming out I would say smoking is nothing. I smoke and don't go out with guys who don't. I always assume all guys are smokers and get turned off when i learn that someone isn't. It's just like a guy who doesn't play sports, or play musical instruments...it's a guy thing, and it's just such a turn-off when you find out you're doing something that he's supposed to be doing and he's not.