And now that another reality relationship is hitting a rocky road with Adrienne Maloof, 51, splitting from her husband, Paul Nassif, the Countess wants to give her TV comrade some words of marital wisdom.
“The priority is always family,” de Lesseps tellsCelebuzz exclusively.
What else did the New York housewife say?
“Don’t let reality TV mess with your family,” the 47-year-old mother of two said.
“Don’t fall into the drama. Keeping time with your family and husband is precious — not being on your computer or your cell phone, and always remember the things that are sacred.”
De Lesseps’ advice comes as Maloof’s husband of 10 years Nassif — with whom she has three young children, 9-year-old Gavin and 6-year-old twins Christian and Colin — filed for legal separation on Monday.
The Countess divorced her husband Count Alexandre de Lesseps in 2009 — a season into the show — after 16 years together and amid reports of his infidelity.
De Lesseps’ ex, and their children, Victoria and Noel made frequent appearances on the NYC version of the Housewives franchise since its debut season in 2008.
But the Countess even admits when she started the show in Season 1 her marriage wasn’t perfect – and reality TV made it worse.
“My situation was not great and I would say doing a reality show does not make it any better.”
“If you’re marriage is on shaky ground, you should reconsider doing a reality show. Family is more important and you need to step back.
“Or it’s simply a good excuse to get out of a relationship.”
Now in committed three-year relationship with Jacques Alouzay, in hindsight the Countess doesn’t regret keeping her family drama behind the camera – and urges Maloof to do the same.
“It’s never a good idea to divorce publicly,” de Lesseps says.
“When it happened to me, I never wanted to put my divorce on the show or put my kids through that. I don’t think that’s necessary – to play your divorce out on camera. And it’s always harder to do it on a reality show.”
De Lesseps says she plans on reaching out to Maloof.
“I was going to private message her so I can tell her ‘I’ve been through it.’”
As for returning for a third season of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, de Lesseps wants Maloof to make sure she’s emotionally ready: “You can be vulnerable, so give yourself time to work things out, process everything, heal and think clearly.
“I hope they can truly work things out because they have a family and that’s more important than a reality show.”
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