In her cover story for Cosmopolitan‘s September 2015 issue, the songstress opens up about her on-again, off-again relationship with the That 70s Show actor. While the two are currently more in love than ever, Lovato says there were times when she tried to sabotage their relationship in the past.
“The only times we ever broke up were when I was relapsing, whether it was drugs or in a bad place and rebelling against everybody, not just him … People say that relapses happen before you use. Your mind starts setting up the relapse before you take that drink or that first hit,” she explains, referencing her previous struggles with addiction. “The times we’d broken up, I had already gone to that place of, ‘Yeah, this is what’s happening.’ I didn’t realize it at the time, but I just wanted to sabotage everything around me so that I could sabotage myself.”
“We started dating when I turned 18,” she continues. “Right after that, I went to rehab. People told him, ‘You should probably leave. She’s on a spiral, and you’re going to be sucked down with it.’ But he was like, ‘I’m not leaving. This is somebody I really care about.'”
“We relate on a lot of levels. I’ve seen a lot of shit. Shit people don’t know about. He’s seen a lot of stuff too.”
So, how do Lovato, 22, and Valderrama, 35, make it work these days? According to her, they’re very open to each other and Wilderrama is never jealous of her close relationship with her ex-boyfriend.
“Nick [Jonas] and Wilmer get along great — Joe [Jonas] and Wilmer too,” she says. “It’s weird. In the beginning, I was like, ‘Why the fuck are you friends with Joe?’ He was like, ‘He’s a cool guy.’ Yeah, I know. I dated him.”